Jackass
I was married to my ex for 8 years, we had our oldest (18yo) before we were married. I left him while I was a few months pregnant with our youngest (4yo). I won’t go into details why I left him but it was for a very good reason. A few months before I left we started a durable medical equipment company together. He did all the legwork, I did all the research (rules, licenses, etc). But things got unbearable for me, so I had no choice but to leave.
We were in and out of court for 2 years after I left. We tried to reconcile the first year but it didn’t work out. A month after I left for the second time he started seeing some girl, I was still afraid to date. A few months later this girl was pregnant, we weren’t even officially divorced yet. I had to face him and his girlfriend every time I went to court. At this time I was still terrified of him, but going through this so many times just made me stronger. We finally came to an agreement on the settlement. I gave up my half of the business for a large amount that was to be paid out monthly. It was official, we were divorced! A few months later he re-married, I was STILL afraid to date.
Getting this jerk to pay the child support and the settlement was difficult. He would pay one and not the other or not pay for months. It was getting frustrating having to call my lawyer daily and not know what was going on. I hated it. I started talking to his sister so the kids could have at least their favorite Aunt back in their lives. She said the ex wasn’t doing well emotionally because he wanted to see his kids. She said “just give him a call, he is different now”. I thought about it for a long time and talked to the kids to see what they thought. We agreed they needed their dad.
The ex and I had a nice long conversation, he had seemed to change. He said all he wanted were his kids back in his life and he promised he would pay me on time and we could just get rid of the lawyers. I agreed. I met his wife, who is very nice and we all got together so he could get reacquainted with the kids. Everything was looking great. He told me I would never need to worry about money because “as the mother of his kids I shouldn’t have to suffer financially.”
Things were great at first. He was paying on time and we were getting along. Then he would pay later and later and here we are today and I haven’t received a payment in months. The kids still see him and talk about where they went out to eat (I haven’t been able to in months) what they bought at the mall etc. So I would send an angry text to the ex, he’d reply with an angry text then later reply with an apology, saying he is just stressed but he promises he will send the child support tomorrow, always tomorrow.
Now he is saying he sent it last Monday. I should have gotten it by now. My landlord just paid me a visit and said if I don’t pay the rent by tomorrow we will be evicted. Luckily my mom has come to the rescue, again. I know he continues to spend money on stupid things while I can’t even pay the bills.
I have searched for a job but once they know I have a child with medical problems I never hear from them again. Yes, my son has a nurse, but it is only for a few hours a day. I have tried to start making jewelry just to get some money, but it’s not enough. I wish my ex would try to at least see things through my eyes. This will never happen, the world revolves around him.
I asked him the other day if he could take our oldest to the doctor, she was running a fever and had a bad sore throat. He said why can’t you do it? I told him my car battery is still dead because I can’t afford to replace it. He said well call an ambulance. Yes, he is that selfish. Like I, said why couldn’t I have chosen a better ex?
